Comments on: The Outing http://arizonaabby.wordpress.com/2008/08/11/the-outing/ “In cultures where gender is rigidly bi-polar, rituals of gender crossing remind us of our continuous common humanity.” Anne Bolin, anthropologist Thu, 12 Nov 2009 22:40:31 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Tiana http://arizonaabby.wordpress.com/2008/08/11/the-outing/comment-page-1/#comment-42 Tiana Tue, 12 Aug 2008 04:48:24 +0000 http://arizonaabby.wordpress.com/?p=43#comment-42 Abby, Thanks for sharing your recent experience with coming out to study group. I can understand your dilemma of wanting to be totally out about yourself when it comes to others who you wish to be freely open about who you are. I suppose it could end up being a double-edged sword to some extent, but ultimately it is the fact that you are living freely and not living in fear. One thing I have been concerned with (and perhaps have heard this from someone else before) is that I do not want to go from one closet to another. I am hiding my true self now by not being totally out about my being trans and not living as a women yet. But once I do get to living full time as a woman, I cannot see myself being stealth and hiding my past. I am not ashamed of who I have been, it is still a part of me. I am proud of what I have accomplished up to this point in my life. So I know I would face the same situation that you have. I only hope I can handle it as well as you did. Hugs, Tiana :) Abby,
Thanks for sharing your recent experience with coming out to study group. I can understand your dilemma of wanting to be totally out about yourself when it comes to others who you wish to be freely open about who you are. I suppose it could end up being a double-edged sword to some extent, but ultimately it is the fact that you are living freely and not living in fear. One thing I have been concerned with (and perhaps have heard this from someone else before) is that I do not want to go from one closet to another. I am hiding my true self now by not being totally out about my being trans and not living as a women yet. But once I do get to living full time as a woman, I cannot see myself being stealth and hiding my past. I am not ashamed of who I have been, it is still a part of me. I am proud of what I have accomplished up to this point in my life. So I know I would face the same situation that you have. I only hope I can handle it as well as you did.

Hugs, Tiana :)

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